The great William Shakespeare once said, “All the world’s a stage; And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts.” Could it be that he was indirectly telling us that in life, human beings wear many masks in this game we call life? I think so.
I’m not alone. Preacher Susan Sparks states that the “Impostor Syndrome” is for real. Robert Greene and his brilliant research on human nature seems to advance this position as well and that our evolutionary development has a lot to do with it.
Impression management is an art even though human beings can be quite gullible. We want to believe that people love us, are on our side in times of trouble and tell us the truth more often than telling us lies. I wish that people was that sincere and nice!
The reality is that power and dominance have an impact on how we choose to show our true selves in society. A lot of acting and adaptation takes place in the world’s stage because of the fear of unfitting. It’s normal; it’s human; It’s necessary for advancement.
We all do it but not too many people are aware that the conscious mind cannot operate without its sibling, the unconscious. They are part of the same system of operation! Our human body. If we pay close attention to what a person say and how their body “speaks,” especially under a crisis, it’s easy to see who they really are.
The calm and confident can show an anger and an insecure response under such circumstances. The nice can become mean. The competent incompetent, and so on. Pay close attention to the masks that people wear in public near you.
Vocal pitch, hand gestures, eyebrows and the size of people’s pupils are quite revealing. The good news is that the body doesn’t lie, as Green would say. A deceiver can say whatever he wishes but it doesn’t mean that his micro expressions will be congruent with what he says.
“The criminal always leaves some evidence,” “There is no such thing as a perfect crime.” Like anything in life, the answer can be found in the small print — In the details. Trust your instinct next time that you “feel” that a person is playing you. Look for incongruences.
“All the world’s a stage; And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts” (Shakespeare).
Think about it.