The literature on non-verbal communication is old and extensive. In fact, it dates back to 1872 after Charles Darwin published the book, “The expressions and emotions in man and animals.”
Darwin’s thesis proposed that humans, like animals, display emotions through facial expressions. Snarl observed in dogs are also observed in humans, and indicates anger or fear, depending on the situation, for example.
Expressions of fear and anxiety can be quickly identified in both man and animals, too.
Kinetics, or the study of body language in communication, is fascinating and worth dedicating long hours of study, I must add. Being a human polygraph has its advantages, That’s for sure.
It helps you with maneuvering and to better understand where you stand with other people, a skill set that can prove to be invaluable for anyone.
Be aware of the following:
1. Physical distancing may mean that the person maintaining the distance don’t like you. Lack of physical proximity is a clear sign that the person you are communicating with dislike you.
2. Silence. Be aware of silence between you and someone else because when people are very quiet, they are likely rearming.
3. Is somebody’s feet pointing away from you in a conversation? How about their torsos? Are they guarding themselves against you by crossing their arms?
Look at the signs presented previously in this article. Be proactive and take notes. Don’t be emotional and act with reason. Are they not making contact with you? Be aware.
All these subtle signs can say a lot and they often do. Get Darwin’s book and start studying non-verbal communication today.
It can be the difference between a job promotion or being fired… : -)