In life, showing too much love tends to repel. By being too present, workers don’t give much space for their peers to have their own interpretations of others, as Robert Greene stated in his latest book the Laws of Human Nature.
We see evidence of this phenomenon when a person in a romantic relationship is madly in love with his (or her) mate where the partner shows little to no affection in return. I’ve witnessed another interesting phenomenon in the workforce — a professional being quiet, distant and to some degree cold and professional advancement.
I can name a number of warm, kind, and overly present workers who ended up stuck in their positions for too long or got fired by giving little space to superiors. It just doesn’t seem to pay off to be obsessive with being present on a person or group’s environment.
In John 15:5 we learn, “I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.”
Could it be that being passionately obsessed with a woman (or man) in our youth or being overly preoccupied with our jobs to the point of giving others little to no room for peers to interpret ourselves be a form of idolatry?
In 1 Corinthians 10:14 Paul writes, “Therefore, my dear friends, flee from idolatry.” In Colossians 3:5 it’s written”
Withdrawing has its benefits and can be quite beneficial for you. It’s okay to be absent from your job sometimes and to always choose God over a person you may be in love with. Remember: Loving God is to precede loving man (or woman).
Be strategic with your withdrawing for a stronger workforce position.